Ex co-worker agreed to be your reference, but disappear while contacted.

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I asked my ex manager and another co-worker to be my reference. They both agreed. But, when my potential employer tried to contact them, they disappeared into thin air. It marked an even more devastating negative effect then giving negative comments. I tried to call them, email them, no responses. They are apparently still in the office because their email still work. I asked other co-worker, they didn't take a vacation.

I didn't have any problems with these two co-workers before. I just can't figure out what happened. I am still at shock. How can someone do things like this? My potential company almost extend the offer to me. Then their disappearances caused them to withdraw the offer from me. The only thing I can think is there is a few crazy and super jealousy type old women who like to spread untrue and harmful rumors around about other co-workers. But, I have already left.

I will not use them as a reference anymore. But, what if other co-workers also act like that. Is it illegal for them to do that?

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Sounds unpleasant. I'm sure people on here would correct me if i'm wrong but unfortunately I suspect that what they did isn't illegal, especially since its a character reference and all.
If its a large company or public sector and you worked there a while I would have thought your best bet next time round is to get an offical (ie non-character) reference from their HR department.

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The company should still provide a reference - contact the HR Department or person. Mention that the manager hasn't done it yet.

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some companies have a policy against character references in case they are wrong and get sued (i worked for an american multinational like that), perhaps such a policy has prevented your ex-coworkers keeping their word. however as Steven says the HR dept should confirm at least the dates of your employment and (i think) the reason you left (which so long as it wasn't dismissal is a tacit endorsement).

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Sounds a nightmare. Don't use them in the future. Best of luck