What one big sign tells you/the world you are STRESSED???

Lone Wolf "An explanation is not the same as an excuse. "
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Submitted by Lone Wolf on 9 September, 2006 - 02:54.

Oooh hello peeps

I have missed you guys - I have not posted for one whole week (work, money, health stuff)- today was going to be the same. But then my proposed duty familial visit was postponed due to strike action, and then my replacement plans to go out tonight with my best friend were cancelled as she is a bit unwell. So I unexpectedly found myself with a free day/eve. And, inexplicably, I found myself feeling enormously excited at the prospect of catching up with a few chores and ooh, being able to post/pm on here again!!! But I was soo excited it felt disproportionate - and then it hit me that when a person gets inexplicably excited at the chance to do a dull chore it is a symptom of extreme stress - a bit of free time even to do something dull feels soo amazing!!! So it seems my week away next Sun is waaay overdue.

So I got to thinking - what one symptom tells you/the rest of the world you are stressed to the max??? Er.. have you ever for example put the milk back in the filing tray and paperwork in the fridge?? I have.. embarrassed I'm like "what the fuck is this doing there?"
So pony up peeps

Missed ya

Love

LW X

PS Might already know Johns - he sent me a pm addressed to "lr". grin

jef costello "Beautiful, just like Nuremburg"
Posts: 9933 Joined: 09-02-06 Location: razorblade of apathy, shave me with your irony
9 September, 2006 - 07:25

I get a twitch in my eye if I'm stressed but I think that's as much down to tiredness as well. I tend to eat and drink more as well, (that's soft drinks by the way, most of my stress is acaemic so alcohol consumption actually drops. Incidentally I had my first beer for over a week yesterday, it tasted pretty rank smile)
Excessive posting on here is a symbol of stress or of having nothing better to do.

Thora "differently ethical"
Posts: 1572 Joined: 17-06-04 Location: London, England
9 September, 2006 - 09:58

I get mad anxiety attacks and can't sleep. But in general I don't really get stressed.

Lazy Riser "Orvillite Allegory"
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9 September, 2006 - 10:10

Hi

I never suffer from anxiety and I haven't had a stressful (as opposed to exciting) experience for about 3 years. Even then it would have been at work, which isn’t really a problem any more.

Love

LR

ftony "crews are for boats"
Posts: 3705 Joined: 26-05-04 Location: East London
9 September, 2006 - 10:11

i just bury myself in what i'm doing and ignore everything else in the whole world. oh except food. i eat more when i'm stressed

Bodach gun bhrigh "banned"
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9 September, 2006 - 11:28

does hearing voices count? grin

jef costello "Beautiful, just like Nuremburg"
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9 September, 2006 - 13:38
Bodach gun bhrigh wrote:
does hearing voices count? grin

It depends on whether they are soothing voices or not.

madashell "KSW, LOL"
Posts: 3112 Joined: 19-06-06 Location: Merseyside
9 September, 2006 - 13:44

I tend to chain smoke, have panic attacks and get really snippy with people when I'm stressed.

I don't deal with pressure well embarrassed

Refused "wee fuck'n' strings"
Posts: 6381 Joined: 28-09-04 Location: Newcastle-Upon-Tyne
9 September, 2006 - 14:50

Whenever I'm stressed I find that people keep asking me if I'm feeling well. I wonder if my skin changes colour.

Bodach gun bhrigh "banned"
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9 September, 2006 - 17:16
jef costello wrote:
Bodach gun bhrigh wrote:
does hearing voices count? grin

It depends on whether they are soothing voices or not.

sometimes yay sometimes nay

Alan "Getting drunk, playing punk on a stylophone"
Posts: 5138 Joined: 28-09-04 Location: SE4
10 September, 2006 - 14:09

I tend not to get stressed that often. I used to literally permanently stressed as a child/early teen, but then I started getting stoned and basically mellowed out and slowly regained some semblance of social skills. When I do get stressed I tend to ask millions of questions and then pace around trying to figure out a solution. I might start shaking if it's especially bad.

Does anyone find that if you're in a stressful situation with someone else, that you always sink into two opposing roles: one person freaks out and starts shouting, while the other one is blase and confident the situation will be resolved. It's like the dialectics of anxiety. groucho

pepe carvalho "lickety split"
Posts: 77 Joined: 09-04-06 Location: London
10 September, 2006 - 14:50

i don't get stressed - fuck it is my attitude if something goes wrong.

i did get stressed but that was mostly because of coffee which i don't drink any more.

Refused "wee fuck'n' strings"
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10 September, 2006 - 15:19
Alan wrote:
Does anyone find that if you're in a stressful situation with someone else, that you always sink into two opposing roles: one person freaks out and starts shouting, while the other one is blase and confident the situation will be resolved. It's like the dialectics of anxiety. groucho

More like the Transgression/Defence Theory of Relationships you fucking plagiarist.

Alan "Getting drunk, playing punk on a stylophone"
Posts: 5138 Joined: 28-09-04 Location: SE4
10 September, 2006 - 15:43

Fuck you, adherent to bourgeois moralist conceptions of intellectual property!

Refused "wee fuck'n' strings"
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10 September, 2006 - 15:50

Yeah, wateva.

jef costello "Beautiful, just like Nuremburg"
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10 September, 2006 - 15:53
Alan wrote:
Does anyone find that if you're in a stressful situation with someone else, that you always sink into two opposing roles: one person freaks out and starts shouting, while the other one is blase and confident the situation will be resolved.

I'd say it's more that one person takes the option of panic and the other one takes the option of reassurance. But it's often easier to do it that way, reassuring someone is a way of reassuring yourself and their extreme reaction is comforting in a way. Probably because it reinforces the fact that you are still in control of yourself which makes you more confident about the situation. In the same way descending into panic for a few minutes can be cathartic and allowing someone to calm you is of course reassuring.
What's strange is that with some people you always adopt the same roles whereas with others it can be interchangeable. I tend to be the calm one, people expect you to be reassuring if you're tall.

Lone Wolf "An explanation is not the same as an excuse. "
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11 September, 2006 - 00:36

Jef

Hah!! Me too - I am always the calm one!! People also expect you to be reassuring if you are a female esp. if you have "child-bearing hips"... roll eyes Annoying that I am so reassuring/calm/nurturing in a way as I fulfil the stereotype but of course this means peeps are astounded when I show my tough/angry/protective persona!!! Which can be quite good fun when eg lame predatory men are not expecting it whether it is aimed at me or someone I care for. tongue

Love

LW X

Alan "Getting drunk, playing punk on a stylophone"
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11 September, 2006 - 01:28
jef costello wrote:
What's strange is that with some people you always adopt the same roles whereas with others it can be interchangeable.

I always found that it was completely interchangeable, which was why I always considered it curious. I guess people have their own priorities.

Grace "Christ, I'd rather just have the semen"
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11 September, 2006 - 09:42
Lone Wolf wrote:
Which can be quite good fun when eg lame predatory men are not expecting it whether it is aimed at me or someone I care for. tongue

I love you.

When I get stressed I generally don't want to see anybody because it puts me in a foul mood with the world. Either that or I get needy and pathetic, but people don't seem to mind that so much when you're tiny.

Refused "wee fuck'n' strings"
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11 September, 2006 - 10:42
Alan wrote:
jef costello wrote:
What's strange is that with some people you always adopt the same roles whereas with others it can be interchangeable.

I always found that it was completely interchangeable, which was why I always considered it curious. I guess people have their own priorities.

Jesus Christ, is there no end to your idea-theft?! The theory is that people find it easy to take a different role for different issues because we aren't single minded robots.

Alan "Getting drunk, playing punk on a stylophone"
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11 September, 2006 - 15:16

Oh wow Refused, perish the thought that I should be able to make the same conclusions as an academic. Perhaps I should patent language so, by your logic, you'd have to desist with your inane contributions to this board?

redyred "A Jitney Elopement"
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11 September, 2006 - 16:08
Lone Wolf wrote:
Er.. have you ever for example put the milk back in the filing tray and paperwork in the fridge?? I have..

Funnily enough yes I have put paperwork away in the fridge recently. Mind you it was a food hygiene folder so at least it was in vaguely the right area.

Yesterday I walked home with work's main bunch of keys. Literally the second I realised I had them I got a call from work; I was all ready to say "Sorry, yeah, just realised..." but it turned out they were actually phoning up to ask me to do some overtime. The bummers.

Alan wrote:
I started getting stoned... and slowly regained some semblance of social skills.

That's weird. With most people it's the complete opposite.

Refused "wee fuck'n' strings"
Posts: 6381 Joined: 28-09-04 Location: Newcastle-Upon-Tyne
11 September, 2006 - 16:45
Alan wrote:
Oh wow Refused, perish the thought that I should be able to make the same conclusions as an academic.

Innit. How absurd.

Alan wrote:
Perhaps I should patent language so, by your logic, you'd have to desist with your inane contributions to this board?

No need. cry

Alan "Getting drunk, playing punk on a stylophone"
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12 September, 2006 - 00:31
redyred wrote:
Alan wrote:
I started getting stoned... and slowly regained some semblance of social skills.

That's weird. With most people it's the complete opposite.

I wouldn't blame Jack's dribbling on pot. He probably did already.