Now im just content to know that we both trust each other.
thats the nicest thing ive ever seen you write. makes you seem almost human.
Likewise im sure most people wh consume porn are quite capable of doing so without feeling the need to start hanging around girls locker rooms, becoming plumbers or calling women "cock hungry sluts" etc.
problem is, the rape culture we live in (i assume you agree we do have a problem there) says different. im not saying that the average guy watches a porn flick and then goes out and rapes someone. clearly the problem of disrespect for a womans right to choose sex comes from all round us and not just from porn, but then isnt that partly because popular culture so often resembles porn? like, i wouldnt have a major issue with one music video portrayal of women as whores, but its in so many of the videos, and then its the ads in between (spray more get more), and then its in the daily newspapers, etc etc etc.
i do think that porn gives stupid and wrong portrayals of sex, and about women, and that these ideas carry over into the mainstream, and become accepted as truths. enough for our rape conviction rate to be as low as it is, because all women mean yes, even when they say no, and other such myths.
and all this talk about how we could make it all better just by making some "better" porn - if i said that you'ld call me reformist, wouldnt you?




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random wel thats the trouble isn't it, sexuality is far to complex to make absolute anouncements on. It is very hard to tell if someone is actually enjoying what they say they are. perhaps they feel like they are suppoused to be enjoying it and so don't feel comfortable raising objections. But believe me this can be the case with men as well. I could go into personal shit about my own relationships but apparently thats me cock waving or trying to display some sort of sub cultural status
. But yes there have been times when a girl has said she wanted to do stuff which I didn't think she was really comfortable with, there have been times I have tried futily to pschyo analyise the root of her sexual preferences. All i managed to do was to make myself unhappy and make my girlfriend feel bad about herself. Now im just content to know that we both trust each other.
anyway enough of that emo shit.
back to the point about hollywood movies. well yes 90% might be shite but I cans till take some form of enjoyment out of them, just cos Black Hawk Down is a racist apologism for US militarism doens't mean to say it isn't beatifully shot or even enjoyable. Likewise im sure most people wh consume porn are quite capable of doing so without feeling the need to start hanging around girls locker rooms, becoming plumbers or calling women "cock hungry sluts" etc.