E06.5: The Hurdles of a Co-dependant Relationship

Question 5 on Episode 6 of Anarcho Agony Aunts

''There's a girl (20) who seems really really into me, but she has thrown herself into relationships with what seems to be manipulative guys. She was engaged with a 30ish year old dude when we met in school. In spring she got broken up with, and moved in with a new guy the following summer, after meeting the dude twice. She seems dependant on having a relationship, while I want help her to become more independent, I worry she will fall for me as I try to support her and build her self-asteem. She is very nice and cute, and if she was more independant I would like to date her. But I feel like there is a power dynamic there that I don't like, if she is into me and relationship dependant, entering to a relationship with her inherently plays on her dependancy I feel like. I don't want to get close and break her heart, nor do I want to be a savior bf.
I'm 21 btw closeted amab enby. Any advice as to what to do?''

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